So today we learned which houses wanted us back for more conversation. Although we started with 8 or 9 chapters, I was only invited back to 3. At first, it was kind of a bummer because I didn't feel like I clicked with two of the three that were listed on my schedule-of-the-day.
BUT! Now I understand why our Pi Chi's kept reiterating the fact that we need to keep our minds open, because although we (most of the time) didn't get picked by the houses we had hoped for doesn't mean that our home isn't with another house.
On Spirit Day (yesterday) one of the houses I talked with I didn't have a good conversation.. the girl was like on a different planet, not really paying attention and being really vague and just not an open and/or welcoming personality.. So instances like this explain why you speak with more than one member during each conversation session.
I ended up talking with a sorority member today who I spoke with in Round One (Spirit Day), so that was kind of cool. I know it sounds weird but seriously after talking to probably 30+ girls it was nice to see a familiar and friendly face.
I keep reminding myself to keep an open mind, stay positive, and be myself. The first two are a little harder than it may seem especially if you don't get picked by your "ideal" houses (i.e. the one's you had your hopes set on). Yes, it's a bummer.. but, again in the words of the almighty wise Pi Chi's, "Trust the process! Be honest and truthful, and you'll find your home. Because who knows, maybe that house you had your sights on wasn't what you thought it was after all..."
After thinking about it, I wouldn't want to form a life-long bond with a house that I thought seems great, but they may not see me in the same way. Or rather, they're inner ideals aren't compatible with what they saw in me. With the mutual selection process, you have to remember that as a group each of these houses are talking with each other at the end of the day about who can carry on their organization's mantra, legacy, ideals, etc. and who they will feel comfortable opening their hearts and home to you (practically as a stranger!).
On a similar note, I see where stereotypes come from.. I mean really, there wouldn't be a stereotype if there wasn't some truth to it. The houses that I saw myself in before this whole process started were based on what I could find on the web... because really I didn't know anyone from any of those houses (except for one, and she was super nice which is kind of what lead me to like her house before this process began) to base my decision on. So talking with these women over and over throughout the span of a week gives you a more realistic idea of who they are, how they feel about their chapter, and what they have to offer you (as well as what you have to offer them).
I trust the process. I feel at-home at one house in-particular already... so let's hope that I can concentrate on school during the week and wait patiently for Friday's next event, Sisterhood Day (round three). Then Saturday is Preference Day (round four), followed by the much anticipated Bid Day (the day you learn which chapter has extended you an invitation) on Sunday!
Ahhhhhhhh!!!! So antsy. Who knew I'd get this involved? I just wanted to see what it was like and how far I'd get, and what chapters would be interested in me... but really, why go through all of this only to say, "ok that was fun, bye girls!" ??
Why I decided to go through: It took me two years after high school to get into college because I thought that it was unnecessary in terms of finding a good job. When I decided to go I attended a community college and commuted. After getting my AA I transferred to a university for the 4-year degree (by the way, the year count is inaccurate. I was at a 2-yr community college for three years, and my boyfriend/fiance was at the university for five years. No doubt you can get it done in four/two, but you have to take a full courseload each semester, excel, and leave zero room for error). Anyway, yeah.. I feel like I never had that genuine college experience because I never lived in a dorm, didn't start at a university from freshman year, and started late. Joining a sorority, to me, will give me that wholesome experience I'm craving. I only have three years left, and I want them to be memorable, insanely fun, and have a lifelong bond with those that experienced it with me.
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